Career Quicksand – How Deep Are You Sinking?

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I have been lucky enough to work out of a home office for most of my career. The few years that I had an office to report in to, I would get stuck in traffic daily. It gave me many opportunities to look at other people’s faces, as their days were off to very “slow” starts too.

  • Some looked sad
  • Others had blank stares on their faces
  • Some looked angry or frustrated
  • Others even looked dazed

On occasion, some were smiling, while others where actually singing! It blew my mind how many people looked unhappy though. Is it realistic to believe that all of them looked that way because they were unhappy going to work? Of course not. Some may have been dealing with other issues too (many were of course frustrated by the continual traffic jams).

How Badly Do You Want It?

New Life


I spoke at a local Toastmasters Conference several years ago and had a tremendous time! My discussion focused on the basics of Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and how to use the social website “Meetup” to attract guests to local club meetings.

When my presentation was over, I continued to chat with several attendees. A couple of people took particular interest in what I was doing online with social media to build my brand. I recall comments like,

  • “You obviously don’t have kids. How could you do all this other stuff and work full-time?”
  • “What kind of day job do you have?”
  • “How much time do you spend on social media per day?”

Communication Breakdown – My Stuttering Journey

Stuttering Story

I once knew a boy…


  • Who was horrified to get called on to speak out loud in grade school class
  • Stood behind his mom or dad’s leg every time as a child when people tried to speak to him in public
  • Answered the telephone by saying “Yeah” at home and not “Hello” when he had trouble saying the word
  • Would cry himself to sleep on occasion as a child wondering why he was different and did not speak like everyone else
  • Once had a teacher stop him from speaking out loud in class, came up to him, asked him to open his mouth and checked if “there was an answer” to his speech issues in there
  • Would sit for what seemed like hours afraid to pick up the phone before calling a friend when he was afraid to stutter
  • As a teenager, would never go through the drive-thru to order food because he was afraid to mess up his words
  • As a young adult, would only order drinks at a nightclub if he could say the words properly, even if he did not  really like the drink
  • Would get lazy and only say words that he could say smoothly throughout the first 18 years of his life, and not work on the difficult words
  • As a high school graduate focused on getting in to a profession where he would not have to interact with many people, and could keep to himself

The Story Of The Grinder



I heard the phrase “are you grinding it out” once and it inspired this post!


The grinder….

  • was never a superstar at any sport as a kid, but what they lacked in talent, they more than made up for in heart and desire
  • had trouble maintaining their “A” and “B” grades from high school in university, even failing one course!
  • had several jobs over a few year period, struggling to find the right fit
  • while firmly established in their career, and was let go from jobs on two different occasions
  • was inspired one day, to pick up a pen and started to write
  • finally took a leap of faith after many months and started a blog
  • dove deep in to their profession and researched heavily in the internet marketing space
  • started to connect with incredible people online via social media one by one, day by day. They kept moving forward using the mantra “A Little Bit Every Day” (thanks Jeb Blount!)
  • struggled with the demands of a day job, a busy family life and extra curricular activities; but still often made time to write and develop their network
  • like most people, has good days and bad days, but refuses to give up; keeps moving forward and constantly reminds themselves how close they are to their goals