Let’s Get Honest – My Stuttering Video!

I’ve stuttered all my life, written about it a lot, but rarely spoke about it publicly. The current #LetsGetHonest campaign on LinkedIn helped me take the leap and share my message.

I’m proud of this video, proud of my life, and am happy that I have not let speaking issues hold me back.

Please share with your network if this resonated with you in any way.

 

Thanks and keep smiling!

Tim

 

 

They May Just Not Understand!


When you are an entrepreneur, aspiring to be one, or even working on a side hustle, not everyone may be on board with what you are doing. This could be family, friends and/or colleagues.
It may sting at first, but .. embrace it. It’s totally cool. Everyone has their own path. 

You have to know what you want out of life, and so do they. 

Remember, previous generations grew up in a culture where you found a job, stayed their for decades (weather you liked it or not), hopefully accumulated a pension, then rode off in to the sunset.

Unless you plan to quit your job and live on a beach as a millionaire in a year, which is totally unrealistic, it’s ok to to explore other sources of income. I’ve lost two jobs and was working towards other sources of income, but had not monetized the biz yet. My bad.

Prepare for the future by starting today. Trust me, I’ve learned the hard way by putting it off. 

How do we Measure Success – A Reader’s Take!

 

 

What is success? It seems that the world defines success as money and material possessions. And that continues to be more apparent every day.

I have chosen to determine success by asking if ones success is “perceived” or “true”.  If we take a drive down any wealthy area in any city and look at the expensive homes (with all the luxury cars parked out front) we right away come to the conclusion; “those people living there are really successful”.

But if we were to dig deeper (which I have been able to do in my career as a financial planner) we would find out that many are far from being “truly” successful. Behind some of those beautiful homes and luxury cars lies a mountain of debt – and if those living there had their incomes dry up it would cause serious financial distress within weeks. I suggest to my clients to define their own “true” success. And even though we can’t live our lives without money, it usually comes in 4th or 5th on the list when determining success.
 
Can we actually control our success? Yes and no. I worked at one of Canada’s largest banks for close to 20 years and my last two were horrible. I hated it. We had completely different views on what a client relationship should look like, what was a good use of my time and what wasn’t, and how/what I was going to be compensated for. Many people (if not the majority) have to put their values and beliefs aside for those of the employers. Generally this isn’t a compromise, but a one way street! If we did and said what we truly believed, most would be out of a job by end of day.  And as I alluded to in my first thought above, people become defined by the incomes they earn and, more troubling, the debt they have accessed to maintain “perceived” success. It’s pretty rare someone leaves a higher paying job to go back to school and pursue their dream job. In most (and I mean 90+%) cases that is impossible. So yes we can control our success, but choose not to because we are not willing to change our lifestyles.
 
Most people “hitting the reset button” are not doing that by choice. Not at all. It’s usually because they have not held on to their employment (rightfully or wrongfully so). I see it all the time; People working for the same employer for 20 years and doing a fine job (I assume so otherwise they would have been let go years prior) and one day they are shown the door (sometimes with a decent severance and other times next to nothing).

People become expendable – at least their incomes do. Thankfully a vast majority find new or similar careers fairly quickly. For me, my “reset” was by choice. I loved my job. But I lost respect for my employer. So I made the choice to reset 18 months before actually stepping off the proverbial cliff. I was going to control my destiny, not the bank. I made sure I was in a good place financially and mentally (hard to say which was more important). And I did everything I could in those 18 months to make sure my move was going to be successful. And 36 months after making that decision, I can happily say I am in a better place emotionally and getting there financially. I left a job that paid me over 6 figures a year to become an independent planner with a starting income of $0.00. So easy to see how that could have prevented me from ever leaving.
 
Why do we care what others think? Years ago you would have never caught me eating lunch alone in a restaurant. Yikes what would people think? Am I a loser? Now I don’t even care about the people around me when I’m out for lunch or dinner. That person you met that day at the concession stand had nothing to feel embarrassed about. They obviously were concerned about your perception of them and regardless you resolved yourself to having a view of them (based on their job?). We all do it. And unfortunately by looking a certain way (wearing a suit), living in a nice home, driving a fancy car that is how we are judged by those around us (for the most part). These are all material things showing our success (either “perceived” or “true”). The best way to make an accurate assessment of someone is to get to know them. I think we would all be shocked by who is really successful and who is not!
 
How can I get people to think differently (going beyond that first impression)? I can start with my kids. The great thing about being a parent is we can help shape the way our kids think. My advice to my kids is be a good person, try not to judge others, and most importantly don’t overly concern yourself with what people may be thinking of you. Easy to say but harder to do. By staying true to yourself and your values people will gravitate towards you. Even if they are friends that drift away – they will be back. I know from experience.

This was an email sent to me from a university friend (Kevin Kuryk) in reply to an email that I sent out to my list. I was blown away, tremendously flattered that my content resonated with him enough and inspired this type of reply.

 

  • I’d love to hear what your definition of success is today?
  • Has that definition changed as you’ve gotten further in to your career?

 

Leave a reply below, or if you’d rather email me, shoot me a note at: TimMushey@gmail.com

 

Daily Goals are the backbone of your business. Consistency is key. Write down goals and look at them frequently. Without excuse, complete them every night before your head hits the pillow.

Tim Mushey

My First Post From The WordPress App!


I’ve been struggling to post with the hectic pace of my life this year. Today, I finally took some time to experiment with the WordPress app on my phone. 

It’s really cool! 

My hope is this springboards me to more consist blogging.

I had an amazing time corresponding with so many people on my recent LinkedIn discussion. Currently it’s at just over 40,000 views. The topic was my decision to disconnect with unresponsive contacts.

I didn’t agree with a lot of things people were saying. There were a lot of comment like,

“Connect with anyone, you never know.” 

There are arguments for that, but only to a point. I have 3,200 followers and nobody has offered me a $250,000/yr gig yet! 😀 Maybe some day right?

Some people said I was too sensitive 😰

Others said I shouldn’t expect a response at all. People are too busy or not on LinkedIn much. Some said they get too much email to reply.

Most people continued to skirt the issue of not replying to the email itself. It takes 30 seconds to say “thanks” with a quick note. People are not getting many personalized notes unless they have a massive following.

Some people said “good for me” -everyone should be more selective in who they connect with. 

One of the best points that was brought up several times is, 

“You need to know what you want out of LinkedIn. What are your expectations?”

Fair point.

This is a social network. People should be social. I’ve always answered emails that were not generic garbage, or spamming me.

Want to set yourself apart from the crowd who are trying to take shortcuts? 

Reply, engage & care!

In case you missed the LinedIn post, Click here to be redirected to it.

Enjoy the rest of the weekend wherever you are!

Thanks!

Tim

TimMushey.com

The Power Of A LinkedIn Conversation!

I posted this question on LinkedIn last week, and the amount of engagement has been amazing! Over 35,000 as of today.

The question was,

I really need your opinion on something. I’ve started to delete selected new connections for being non-responsive and now I’m second guessing myself. Here’s one example. A recruiter reached out with a generic invite to connect. I decided to accept, as an experiment. I sent my typical personalized welcome email, with a note of places to connect with me on social media. But then I took it a step further. I asked if there was a specific reason they wanted to connect. Was there an opportunity that wanted to discuss, or something else. I gave them 7 business days to reply, and if they did not, I decided I would delete them as a connection.

Surprise surprise no reply. HELP! Was I ….

  • Too harsh? I should just connect with everyone and not be so sensitive
  • I did a good thing, we all need to be more selective with who we connect with
  • I have to respect people’s busy schedules and not expect replies
  • Thinking about this is a time suck and I should just get back to more important things 🙂

I can’t wait to hear back from you all. This is going to be fun!

The amount of comments and responses on my LinkedIn post has been truly overwhelming. I would LOVE if you stopped by and gave your two cents.

Click here to see the post!

Click here to connect with me on LinkedIn!

 

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Don’t focus on quantity of followers. Aim for quality. The most connections doesn’t necessarily win! Be authentic, engage with your audience, and it will grow. Patience is key!

Tim Mushey